Posted: Friday, April 26, 2013, 8:33 am
Young widows are those unlucky people who have to make second chances for themselves. This is a story of overcoming the unthinkable.
When the author goes to her first widow's support group (and gets kicked out for being too young), she decides there must be a better way to grieve the loss of her husband. Becky is straightforward when it comes to describing her grief. She is frustrated with the modern idea of a widow.
The researchers she visits give new and interesting insight into the grieving process. They explain that there is no such thing as the five stages of grief, which were meant for the dying, not for survivors. New studies show that when a spouse dies, the surviving partner's body starts breaking down on a monocular level, and widows/widowers will have more health problems because of it. With these facts in hand, Becky begins the process of moving on with her life.
Becky starts a support group with five other widows who range in age from late 20s to early 50s. They are all so different from each other, but are able to bond over the loss of their husbands. You'll love how silly they can be. You'll cry when they share how they lost their husbands.
This book may not seem like it's for everyone, but everyone should read it. A contemporary take on A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis, this book takes a good hard look at how widows are viewed in society today. It offers insight into how widows might want to be treated. It is also realistically shares how long it takes people to grieve.